It’s not as hard to be smooth in your dancing as you may think. And once you know what your are doing with some basic moves, you can score points in lots of different situations.

You don’t have to reach a particularly high standard to have fun!!!

You just need to be good enough that you can get on the dance floor, blend in with everyone else, not feel like an idiot or uncomfortable while you’re on the dance floor. Lots of people are at least somewhat awkward about dancing. You don’t have to look like a professional from Dancing with the Stars, you’ve just got to be decent enough to get by. Just knowing the basics will put you way ahead of all the non-dancers out there.

1 – Enjoy Your Dancing

Above all enjoy your dancing. Dancing is about having fun so don’t lose sight of the joy of dancing. If you’ve had a bad day, dance is a great stress relief and dancing takes you away into a completely different place.

Dance is a happy, fun social activity that is wonderful to share with different people. Dance is great for meeting people from all walks of life and making new friends.

People worry too much about what other people think of their dancing

Men often see dancing as a skill to show off. Being ‘better’ than others on the dance floor is important to them. Men think that someone with flashy moves is a good dancer. A woman’s concept of a good dancer is a someone who makes them feel good, is fun to dance with and looks comfortable, confident, and like he’s having fun.

All a woman wants when she is dancing with you is that:

• You are there with her
• You are dancing with her
• She feels good in your dance hold
• She can tell what you want her to do (remember, she is ‘following’ you so she doesn’t know what the next move is going to be…)

Most of the time when you’re dancing with a man, he’s not making a critique of your dancing. He’s just excited to be dancing with a woman, hoping he doesn’t mess up and maybe can impress you a little bit. He’s much more concerned about how his own dancing looks to you.

Try not to worry about what other people think. Usually the random bystanders who seem to be judging you are just too nervous and self-conscious to do it themselves. The other dancers are more preoccupied with how they look and how they are dancing than about you.

2 – Acquire reliable dancing basics

When you’re watching a movie, the way the extras are moving in a simple, relaxed manner is the goal you want to start with. If you know how to do that, that’s all you need in many situations.

Add some moves if you want to

If you want to  look better than most, than you’ve got to work at it more by developing a bigger repertoire. It doesn’t take much, about 7 moves total per dance style to have a good social repertoire where you will stand out.

3 – Keep taking Dance Classes 

No matter what level we are, we can improve. There is always someone from whom we can learn. Just learning a new, different dance will improve your dancing.

Group classes give us an opportunity to try out our dance skills before taking them out to a social. Changing partners lets us practice techniques we’ve picked up during personal instruction.

Find dance styles and teachers that fit you and stay with them for a while.